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Who is the marrying kind?

I have been raking my brains trying to find the answer to this one….
Is there such thing as a marrying kind and the not marrying kind?
When I was young, I used to have the notion that a fate worse than death was to grow to settle down and have children?

But how true is that notion to me.
I look at examples laid before me and I think….. hmmm
Take my parents for example; their marriage does nothing to inspire me about getting into the sanctity of marriage, the bond between husband and wife…
It doesn’t hold much for me when my nearest and dearest cant seem to hold it together.

Marriage is not tantamount to salvation! That is my view now, What with the examples I have before me, the rampant cheating, and jealousy, obsessive controlling behaviour that men (and women) tend to display what hopes do I have that I wouldn’t join the band wagon and make a mess of it myself.

They never tell you that life is hard o.

The role and impact of family life on children is not something I take lightly. It’s a responsibility that I must be able to live up to if not then I might as well not get involved in it….

Do I see a good husband for me?
Are you patient, … its me we are talking about and I am moody, impulsive and like to do my own thing, i am fun though, in as much as I am a stick in the mud, I like variety and change that is subtly introduced... I may withdraw into myself and I may need space. so may you. In life there are ups and downs, can we be patient with each other give ourselves the space and time needed. Can we support each other nurture each other, With God overlooking on us.. Can we communicate with each other. Can you be a good leader. and I mean a Leader, can you show direction.

It doesnt mean that in life mistakes are not made, but can you rise above the mistakes, dont dwell on it but learn from it and move on....

Are you good with finances? i am lady that likes to be told what
to do, but not dictated to...i have my own mind but as an assistant leader all decisions go through the leader and we think put ideas on the table and follow up with the best plan.. logic should always win through but sometimes let passion and instinct help along the way...

Can u listen: sometimes I talk and just want someone to listen, I am not looking for an opinion or seeking thoughts I just want you to listen to me. Can you deal with that, that I make my own descisions on things, I follow my heart and convinctions. Will I be able to listen to you as well, listen you you hear you out and leat you speak, dont judge but just listen.. we are all humans, perfection is never easy but we learn as we grow together

Can I trust you: this is very important for me, can I trust that you have my back regardless, can I trust that you are not a philandering so and so and that you are for me and only me as much as I am for you and only you. Can you trust me too, i am very loyal sort of person and i will fight till the very end, but i fight if there is reason to fight..I see the people and the examples laid before me, i dont want that, I want my own kind, The one in my heart, The one i tell my God,,, i want trust and openess..God being our overseer, I dont want bad thoughts or dem say this dem say that.. even if dem say.. the trust we have should always ride above that..

Do you have faith: I believe in my God and nothing that happens to me is a mistake but it’s the will of my God. Whatever, wherever my God is in control. Can u deal with that? I believe in one God, the God of Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, Noah, Jesus, Mohammed. The God that was then and the same God that is now and the same God that will be forever. I believe that religion is about worshipping God and no one else.
I do not believe in the myth of intercession: expect that which God will allow, if God does allow
I believe in worshipping God according to the scripture and to nothing else.
I believe there is knowledge in all things and some good advice but the only thing I can rely on is the word of my God as noted in the scripture.
I believe my God is the only God and somehow, somewhere man has made things complicated for himself by adding as he chooses to the word of God.
I believe in God and all his prophets and messsengers and I choose not to make a distinction amongst them. So for me Jesus is the same as Noah, is the same as Mohammed is the same as Abraham. They were all Gods messengers. And that is enough for me.
I believe in the scriptures that were revealed: scriptures which provide guidance and light from God to help us find our way from darkness into Gods light.

God is important to me as is the survival and success of my soul.. that is not for you to feel obligated for but in some ways you play a part... as my leader will you set good examples for me to follow, for our children to follow, its not do as i say but lead by example...

My testimony is as thus: There is no other god but God, the Living , The Eternal, The Most Gracious, The Almighty.

I believe my life should revolve around my faith and worship of God not the other way round.
by right I am a simple person and that is what is in my heart.. simple as simple..



Do you see a good wife in me?
Its very easy be deluded and think that I have qualities that u desire ( all the pump and pagentry of the outside me is nothing compared to the inside me that i dont let anyone see) and also very much ignore the obvious, I can sometimes be a pain because i am a simple minded person...my heart is simple my thoughts are simple... buying me plantain chips is more worthy than buying me a gold necklace, helping me undo my hair is more worthy than buying me fancy dresses.
Dont get me wrong..i like fancy things but simple things mean more to me than flouncy overshows of affection.

1, I will not support anything that I myself do not believe in.... logic overides the day and Gods guidance rules the way..
2, I am moody and can be very impulsive
3, God will/should always come first
4, Once trust is gone there is nothing left for me
5, I like attention from my man… makes me feel like I am loved and wanted, but there is a fine line btw attention and obsessive controlling behaviour
6, I dont like stress at all. Stress being anything I cannae deal with , I am most likely to withdraw from the situation rather than see it through...
7, Gods will be done regardlless of anything in My life

I am not your typical run of the mill girl. I am FatsO ., I think differently, do differently, say differently..

Is this what you are looking for?