So Sick! Sick! sick!.
I think it’s sick.
Forgiveness is divine and true forgiveness comes from God.
But for a child to be abused by an adult?
Come on! How not right can that be?? The forces in the air ringing alarm bells, emergency red lights banging about in your head.
Your child, or worse still a child you helped raise, a member of your family, who shares your genes and all that. Someone whom you are meant to care for and you abuse them.
I am sorry, but hang the poor toad firmly by their toes and get a surgical blade. Make small incisions in several places and get the hottest chilli in the world and smear all over the body. Then get a pump and pump a mixture of the chilli and some purgatives up their backside, then set on them some African red ants “tambolo”. Leave them hanging for about 3 days. After, get them down, tie them by the hands and flog them 100 strokes. Repeat constantly in that order.
This is me, after reading “She’s leaving home” by Edwina Currie. Trust me; you will feel the same too and possibly a lot more.
You see, that is what is wrong with society today.
No concept of God.
No morale and no idea of what is just and proper.
I would hate to think that society has reduced itself to a prototype of Sodom and Gomorrah. Don’t you think??
Ok lets analyze this; what happened with Sodom & gomorroha ? Ungodliness, sodomy, rampant prostitution and uncountable disgusting (in order words I don’t know).
Where did they end????
Now, look at society today, same thing, same pattern, and round about same pace.
Go figure.
I can understand that people are different, have different strengths and what-nots but by all means, if you are being molested speak up. It is wrong. Plain and simple wrong! No amount of justice can make it justifiable.
In a way I can understand them keeping quiet, cos, I have done some crazy shit ( by my own definition) in my lifetime, Imaging who do you talk to, who do you tell, em, “excuse me miss, but my dad has been playing with me” Who do you report it to??. In most cases, when u speak out, most people just want to hide in shame, they all want to cover it up. But how can you justify that.
No one is perfect. Yes.
But I am in firm belief that if you are in a position of power, you should not abuse it. If you are in a position of help, you should not use it as leverage against others, where you make them do things they might not want to do.
Everyone wants to cover things up. You report things and they don’t believe you. But they are scared enough to tell you not to say things like that again.
In my XX years of age I have come to believe that God in his infinite wisdom has Plans, and that life as we see it, with all its giving’s and misgivings, fortunes and misfortunes, deeds and misdeeds are all under this Plan. So we can only hope and pray. Slowly but surely, a solution will arise.
Parents have an obligation, moral religious and just obligation to make sure their children are brought up morally. They have to make sure their children have been taught how to be obedient, respectful, (trustworthy and honesty I might add there but I think that all has to do with a persons conscience.).
That is what is wrong with society today. Stupid little thing that have no respect today. Children as young as 10 who smoke, drink, do drugs, have sex, steal, rape, maim, they do them all.
Let us be honest for once and admit the truth. This is what happens as society gets more developed and hi-tech. It’s like a poem I read in school about human beings being robots. No conscience, just do do do do. No thought into doing.
The consequences of what society will be 2mrw due to our over-looking the presence. It’s a vicious circle, one we can’t escape from but one I believe we can take control of and manage.
Those who were children in the past who got punished for their wrong doings, when they become grown and are leaders, they don’t want their children to go through what they went through. That in itself is understandable, but do they ever realize and own up that whatever punishment they got was deserved???
In the cases of those with just exceptionally cruel parents I sympathize but do they ever look and see their parents are not being cruel? Would they consider that the relationship between a child and parent should be of adult and child? The adult knows best up until the child has gained some knowledge and is able to process/reason with clear judgment, only then should there be discussion and dialogue. So in that thread, as a child if you are repeatedly doing something your parents says not to do, then you suffer the consequence which is usually canning?? There are other ways to look at it, which will agree and disagree with this line of thought.
With each passing generation, society degrades, values get decreased and conscience is lost. Worshiping God is almost overlooked.
These things are important.
When I was growing up, if I had the misfortune of having parents who didn’t teach me morals, then I was taught outside either through experience. Cos no one stood for nonsense especially coming form a cheeky little rat like me
That is how it should be, people looking out for other people.
Now you get 5 yr old dressing up like 15 yrs and 12 yr olds like 20. Actually, in another sense, can you blame the paedophiles and peeps who do nasty stuff with children?
In the case of men on men crime, that is another subject on itself.
When a guy thinks a girl is grown and she flirts with him - knowingly flirts with him, turns him on and then she wont produce the goods??
Bullshit!
If I was a man and a girl teased me beyond my threshold unit, fucking hell will break loose.
Although I must admit at this point, I am one of those ninny girls to hold partially responsible.
Also don’t get me wrong here, forcing against consent is a crime, no means no but u should not be allowed to prick tease and then say no.
Prick teasing is just fuelling up the already raging hormones, you start the mixture up and then you don’t know how to put it out??
You shouldn’t have started it in the first instance.
Lets be honest here, if a girl teases and a guy rapes, after viewing both arguments, both in some way should be held responsible and be punished. The girl to a certain degree should also be punished. Most women are not innocent, in fact scrap that’. Women in general are not innocent. We are vindictive, mischievous creatures. (Everyone is the same; the difference is the concentration in which we have these nifty characters in)
I am a woman, and as much as I want to believe I am innocent, when I honestly look at facts I am not. I am also mischievous and vindictive, I don’t show it but get me hurt and you will see a different side to me. Same with everyone else I guess.It is up to each one of us as individuals to be able to control our rage and obsessions, forcing the reasoning factor of though back from the brink to analyze before we undertake an action. Mind over matter, mind over emotion and feeling. It is hard but it is worthwhile and it works.
Life is not fair, we all know and people don’t necessarily get their comeuppance. That’s life.(Frank Sinatra)
Imagine this scenario,
When a girl, ash brown with blonde low lights, big silver hoop earrings, lover cute ears by the way, big tits—well not too big. Wearing a white t-shirt with the slogan” hungry” in silver glittery fluff writing. White bra that shows underneath the shirt, you can see the outline of her cooped up tits in the one size too small bra. Sky blue jeans skirt with sliver studs at the hem and side lines. Flat camel suede boots with tassels. Oh and by the way she is just 12 yrs of age.
A guy sits on the no 61 bus just slowly approaching St George’s cross. The bus driver sees her from far. But he is married you see. He chuckles to himself and goes “nice arse”
That in itself isn’t innocent, but in this case it is.
But this man with a gold stud earring in one ear and a silver hoop in the next, bushy eye brows, “magnum PI” type. Nice looking man at the very least.
He sees her as the bus driver pulls into the stop. That man seating in the middle of the bus is enticed. In his head his juices are in overdrive, he wants the girl and he needs her now. That girl in the white shirt slung down jeans skirt showing her pink tongs. The way she walks, he surely wants her. They make eye contact. Yes he says to himself she wants me too. She looks 20 maybe older and I am not bad looking at 29. Oh how he wants her.
But the bus pulls away. Bye bye my sweet love.
That is scenario 1.
2 days later in town, the same guy, sees another girl like the first one, dressed the same way. Not exactly the same but maybe with a pink “V neck” blouse. Lilac bra, the right size this time, only it’s a wonder bra and oh my, they are certainly doing the job, lime green thongs and navy blue jeans. Now this wee girl if just 9, just been for a song talent contest, walking on her way back home. She was running late so at last minute she decided not to change into her normal gear .She was dressed like her favorite idol. Brittney, or whatever
Now the guy, still thinking he has to have her, (the first girl that is) grabs the second girl and attacks her. That was scenario 2.
Now why did he have to rape girl 2?? Girl 2 is a nice obedient girl, respectful girl as well.Why didn’t he molest girl 1 which was the girl he wanted??
Life is never fair not to me not to you or to my uncle or parents.
Cos of the actions of girl 1 girl 2 suffers. That’s life, as my crooner old buddy frank Sinatra sings.
With God all things are possible, visible and visualized.
Worshipping God should be a part of our fundamental belief, the fact that there is someone who has dominion over all things—sort of a father figure but more, who umbrellas down on us.
The fundamental of any religion/faith is belief. If you believe, you can achieve. Which ever way you want to apply it. Whether is in good way or bad evil way. If you believe you can achieve. If God wills it, and you believe you will achieve.
It sorts of ties in with mind over matter arguments. Mind shall always be master over the body, not the other way round.
The human mind, what a fantastic thing. Filled with hollow and ever darkening crypts and secrets.
In your mind you can commit adultery, murder, 6- side kinky sex pot thrillers. Things that one cannot allow to manifest as actions. Your thoughts lap up these scenarios, which gives one the freedom to expel energy.
With God all things are possible. Trust me/ for a nation w/o God is doomed for life.
Importance of parentage, religion and overall conscience. These all need to be re introduced. I don’t think everyone is capable of being good parents, but with good guidance and an extended family back bone they can survive.
I am a bit draconian about these issues. I suggest a parent license. Veto who wants to have a kid. But we all know that wont work.
The difference between other cultures and UK culture in terms of parentage is very noticeable. Where I grew up, your neighbor has the right to correct your child (within reason) if they had done something wrong in ones absence, in UK here I have observed you dare not. If not it’s a whole load of kettle of fish.
But if society does not look out for one another who will???
Bring back corporal punishment I say, because we are all so stubborn and strong headed we don’t want to see sense at all. The way most children are now adays we are to blame for it. No respect, no morals. A ten year old can meet an older person outside a shop and beg him or her to help them buy liquor or cigarettes??? Go figure! Why? The stupid person will actually do it. Most people forget even I too sometimes forget, what goes round will come round. It might not come in the form you think it will but then you never know, but when it comes you will know that is why it has come around to me.
When I was young, I was punished and beaten with a cane very badly. Did I deserve my beatings? Most of them I did and most I did not. But you see, that was my lot. At the time I didn’t understand. The fear of punishment did not let me do jack shit. One beating from my dads cane is enough to dissuade the thought from your mind. That long tree branch. The base of the cane is slender and long and fairly flexible. As it protrudes upwards, it thins out into about 4 different arms each with its own family of baby branches. It was probably sapwood but it smelt musty. Smelt of very old musky sweat that someone had drained and kept in the back yard for 5 years. It tasted a bit naff but enjoyable once you got used to the taste. Kinda like chewing stick.
There was also the cane stick (koboko). The tree branch was called egba. The cane stick was light brown pine colored and very flexible and bendy. No character to this cane, it was just very flexible. Once it strikes your skin, the affected area swells up to the size of the cane. Unbelievable but true. It never ceases to amaze me.
I remember when my dad beat the five of us. Our crime: talking to a stranger who also offered to buy roasted corn for us. You do not accept food from a stranger without showing to your parents first. We were told to face the wall with our hands up almost immediately when we alighted from the Volvo. When he was ready he beat us and the funny thing I remember from it all was how my siblings shifted the blame to me.
Now wait a minute, I was not to blame , cos I had looked to my sister who was sitting next to me as the corn was passed along the line, we were very hungry and I looked to her and whispered, should we accept it, she nodded and we all did, and then they blame me.
Just like the time we were walking about the compound and found a cigarette i on the floor. They told me to smoke it, no! They dared me to smoke it, I said no and they said they won’t tell anyone. Damn right they wouldn’t. The moment the cigarette butt touched my lips, they ran from the back of the house to the front screaming I was smoking a ciggi. My dad beat the shit out of me.
What makes people rape, murder and pilfer?
Everyone is different you see and by definition their circumstances will be different too. Life is a play with many stages everyone’s part in life is different. Each person has to overcome something to go to the next stage.
We never look into the wider picture of things, when bad things happen, maybe we should. The short term is irrelevant when it comes to life, always view along the wide angle.
I now sound like a sniveling preaching bob-rat, which I have to admit I sometimes am, but today I am not, but seriously speaking lets look at it sensibly, we all know the difference between good and evil. Do we always do good?? No we don’t.
The same way we don’t always do evil.
What we do is - we do not care.
Each person’s upbringing is different as is their take on life, what molds and shapes them will forever be different even though they are brought up the same way, look at siblings from the same parent family. Each person has to be able to find themselves and push past whatever obstacle they think they face and get on with it. Don’t dwindle on one certain aspect, if u need help go and seek it, talk to somebody, trust me that helps. If you don’t know how to start, write a letter to yourself or to your imaginary friend.
Everyone will always have obstacles; the trick is to find a way to strive forward.
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