love and accept, get on and respect

.............IT IS POSSIBLE TO LOVE SOMEONE WITHOUT HAVING TO RESPECT THEIR VIEWS/CHOICES................

hmmm, i read that in glamour magazine, and it caught me a wee bit cos i had to think about that statement...

i guess that is tolerance, by my own understanding, you still love/get on with that person, but you dont share the same views/accept the same beliefs..

so how possible is this to achieve..

the first things that get to me is the intertwining of the words themselves and how some people see them.
1 - on some level, to love is to respect.
2 - on another level to love is to accept

you surround yourself with people who share most of your views on life, that way you get along and there is harmony, and instinctively you stay away from those whose views and beliefs are soooooo far removed from yours - bar the anomalies which will occur here - like bonding through familiarity -

every person, i assume ( apologies cos i am generalising here) cannot not judge another human being. we just cant help it, even though it is a thought, a passing glance, or dis-acknowledgement we in some way interact with others through judging their every action/behaviour.. so how can we learn to accept people for who they are and be tolerant to their views..

hmmm
my own view is to separate the person, - ( i call this the person we identify with) from their view/choice( what the person identifies with)..

i see some flaws here... because what someone identifies with, usually contributes to how they see life and ultimately how they behave with other people and in effect who they are..

so is this still possible..

its like saying ( on a far fetch scale) that i love my dad, he is still my dad, but i hate that he is a mass murderer... ( firstly, that is judgement in it simplistic form because one.. it is my own judgement according to my own set of rules that i deem my dad to be a mass murderer, secondly how can you accept your dad knowing that he has killed other people - that will assume that you agree with his killing other people or it docent bother you that he kills other people, which may imply that you see nothing wrong in killing other people {there are different ways i could look at this})

hmm, this is an interesting one..