help Lord..my boy...

What can i do about this boy Lord.. he wants freedom but i am afraid of this life for him.. and all the influences and all this racial tension.. so i am watchful for him.. he wants football but there is no opportunity for him... he does not want to do anything else...or maybe it.is me..i dont have enough time.for him..i dont know...i am.not a.man..i am woman...whether i like it or not  men rule.. it is a.mans world...i want to.raise.a.man.. a righteous man.. strong morals knows himself.amd his place..knows his responsibilities.. i fear i may be over protective  because he is gentle.in nature amd becauee when he was in my belly i was toooo emotional and crying all the time that i think i may have affected his psyche so he grew up being emotional too.. i know i cannot control life and i cannot control destiny or what you have ordained to happen...i have no power over anything not even my own life.. so i need help with these children Lord.. even the girl is worrying me.too.. her attitude and her behaviour is concerning....