i am finding it very interesting , peoples attitude to this marriage of a hting.
really i cnnot understand why there is such an outcry to celebrate a wedding in the manner other people want to.
firstly, i am no so comfortable with the mammoth costs associated with a wedding - i am not looking to break a bank, apply for a loan, commit robbery just to do a wedding celebration.
second - i am really not comfortabble with th rising costs due to initing people i mave not spoken o in 10 years, people who have never bother to call me or ask after me, who were nt there for my tears and trials, who have never offered me advise - this is my side of the family i am talking baout
thirdly i just would like a quiet day.
in all honesty, my dream for a wedding will be to invite all those who have see me grow, hve offered me advise, those i have looked up to, from the lady who used to sell stuff o/s my dada hospital - to brother victor - our family carpenter, to brother yekiki - our family mechanic, to my oliver - our gateman for some long a tim.. these are the people who have known me in my childhood, who spent time humoring me with all my insessant questions...
the true cost of getting these people - the ones i call special, is in actual fact a lot - because they are all in nigeria. however not withstanding, i am not one who buys into galavanting celebration to show off just because it is a wedding.
the most important thing on this day is the fact the me and my husband stand before God, seeking his blessings and support for our union.
civil wedding is for the law and we must abide by the laws of the land - but Gods law is more important to me
some have called it rushed, some have said its arranged - just because we say we want a simple wedding - no fuss, just simple.. God help us.
really, when it comes to my family and this lesson i learnt from my 30th birthday - i will try gw never let anyone hijack my day and do things that i really dont want -
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