Parents part 1

Sometimes I don’t know why I bother with my dad because each time his action send me messages that he doesn’t care about me..
Apparently he is around the country,, visiting all his children as usual,, he will not come to visit me…
It is very interesting all the time he does this.. But there is a God and God does sees his actions towards me as he does see my actions towards me..
So in this matter I leave it to God to judge…
the last time he visited me he accused me and my mother of stealing his cap to do some juju of some sort.. god help me.. i went to meet him at the station .. infact three people went to meet him at the station, me my friend and my mother.. my dad said when he alighted from the train he was wearing his cap.. ant to the best of my knowledge as God who made me, when he alighted from the train he wasnt wearing the cap..even my friend will agree with me on this... but noo! my dad said it is a special cap that we have taken it.. i am quite sure we can go to the train station and ask for cctv evidence to this fact...infact i leave him to God to judge him for all his accusations without proof.. but he still wants to do his blind accusations.. God dey.
so does that mean he will never come and visit me... ok make those round trips round the children.. There is a God who sees you and me too for that matter.
This is not a matter btw you and my mother but a matter between me and You. Regardless of what you do to me i will always commit you to our creator.. Thats at best all i can do...

I understand my dad and my mum have issues,,, but what has that issue got to do with me.. I have always done my duty as a daughter to my parents as best as I can.. I insist I will not get involved in their dispute because frankly speaking that has nothing to do with me… though I am not close to both parents.. In terms of going to them for help and advice.. Does it mean that my dad will shun me?
One day the truth will out.. As it always does.. And whoever regardless in my mum and dads dispute that is wrong ...on their head be it.. Really in that respect.. I don’t give a shit.. Its their life,,, if they mess it up that’s btw them and their creator..
If they lie and do bad deeds that is btw them and their creator.. It is not for me to judge.. Though I may ponder on it…it is not for me to cast blame.. Though I may want to.. It is for them to sort out with their creator.. I wasn’t there when they were having sex and courting each other an dall whatever was happening.. So my reasoning is: if they didn’t call me to watch porn film of both of them then they are having a dispute, then don’t call me either (that’s a bit disturbing really but what I mean is.... what I haven’t witnessed or been party do.. its not my business.) If they ask my opinion I can only give then advise based on the info they give me.. If that info is severely flawed.. Then I can still only give me info based on what they present to me…

This father of mine… it is very interesting.. As usual I watch with gusto at what will happen.. “God dey” as we naija people say…
Even if he does not like my mother does that mean he should dislike me too
I don’t dislike him. He is my father.. Though I may not agree with his actions and choice but as my feelings go.. That’s life.. His choice his life his actions his consequences…
That is btw him and his creator..
My life my choice, my action my consequence..

On a logical “tit for tat level”,, person who don’t care about you,. You just have to forget about them too.

But this is different in respect to ones parents.. Regardless of how much he may hate me or dislike me… he will still be my father and I am duty bound as a daughter to observe my duties to him both on a religious level and a cultural level.. Though I don’t really bag that cultural view that much unless it makes sense..
But like I says “God dey”…. This particular subject moves me to tears.. Because…I don’t know what I have done to deserve parents like mine..
It is not a complaint.. It is a general observation..
I cannot complain at all. Far from that, I can only thank God.. For what He has given me..
Others may have had it worse.. dads raping them/murdering them etc just like stories you hear in papers..
But my dad thank God is not like that (well frankly I don’t know.. all I know is that he looked after me as best as he could given that I was a stubborn child and suffered a great many beating from both parents.. many were my fault and some were not but that’s life…) without the conditions I suffered going up , I may not be the person I am today, I have to thank God for that.. Because of them see in them in “action” I grow to appreciate my life and my experiences…

Lets watch this space…