funny view on marriage

Right now, I am worried about my friend.
Now what can I tell you about one of my girls. This woman is one fine babe. Fine as in Fine! Fine. Silky skin, nice bony cheeks, pristine mouth- lovely smile by the way. Clear Chinese eyes, small slanted and cute. Long lean legs.
The lady is nice, cheery and very friendly. A bit snobbish I must add but she never lets it show. If you look at her very closely you might just realize it you unless you probe you won’t find it. In a way I would say she lays herself very thin but the cracks still show in the corner of her eyes.
Firstly ma girl is not sure of her powers. She knows she is fine, commands attention but she still doubts it. Insecure I would say but hey, what do I know.
She is the classic all time girl, married to her first love, sex the first time all firsts, and here she is contemplating divorce.
See, I don’t get that at all.
I understand love at first sight, but love aint enough to hold a relationship down. Besides what is love?
Love is a figment of our imagination. Love is an infatuation that we allow to exist for whatever time. We think its love but it never really is.

What we call love is a mixture of different factors, it involves how good the person makes us feel, how good we feel about ourselves, whether we think the person is cute, if we are fond of the person, the persons sexual prowess and what he/she is willing to do in bed, if we think he/she has potential to be modified or, in drastic measures change, do family/friends accept him/her, do I admire the person, icky little things like that.

There is no one thing called love.

Love in another sense also is selfless devotion and surrender. But I believe one should only seek to surrender to God and be selfless with God.
See, I am also trying to get this round my head, how you can meet someone for the first time, have sex the first time and marry them. No!
Its only divine intervention that one finds their soul mate and trust me it doesn’t happen every day.
In as much as I firmly believe in not being promiscuous and the part in the commandments concerning sexual relations {(and all the other ones too.) not that I firmly adhere to all the commandments. But I wished I do and I will still try to.}

People rush into marriage without looking at repercussions and all dat.
But at this my age now when I think of all these thing what I will say??
In a way I have come to accept , based on evidence and fact that the fact that people rush into marriage is not the reason marriages fail. It is only but by the grace of God that we survive anyway, marriage not excluded.

Before I marry a man, I have to know or should I say I have to ask myself if I can live with him. I have to question myself knowing fully well that I am a selfish person, can I learn to share my shit without wanting to poison the poor guy. First I visualize myself at 65 past all that shagging phase, the quickie in the bathroom, the sexy knickers phase, I think, will I still be comfy with that person, will I still talk to him, when I say talk I mean talk to him, not talk about tv or friends but can we actually have intelligent discussions, do we pick each others brains, does he understand the way I think, I reason, does he think the same way to?? Does he have a clue to my thought of reasoning process? do I him as well?/
Do I accept him for him, he might be handsome or ugly whichever way I look at it, clean or one dirty arse guy, his mouth might smell or his farts unbearable, his hygiene might be perfect or he just couldn’t give a damn, he could be bad at sex or quite good. Will I accept him for what he is, not try to change him, maybe modify him a wee bit but try not to change him, and if I do try, will I do it with his consent and participation.
When he is sick and has some ill nasty diarrhea, shitting all the time and in bed as well, will I wash him down, look after him, not look down on him in that pitiful state, still love him the same, still give the respect, will I clean the sheets, don’t grumble just do it with love and affection.(I am not perfect, I might look at the sheets and go yew!, so that’s allowed.)
Will I take him to the toilet, bath and wash his bum, in case he has bowel problems and can’t do it himself. Will I still have passionate sex with him maybe 2 days later and not be put off by the incident before.
If he cant get a job, looses his job has no money, will I support him still, will I look up to him/?
When I am mad at him, will I humiliate him in front of all his friends, will I be there for him and vice versa, if his dick gets cut off by accident or gets castrated by an angry mob, will I say “Its ok darling, you can still do stuff with your fingers.”

Yes there will be rifts and fights in the relationship, but can we work above that? More importantly do we trust each other?
In my view all things need to be answered as yes before you think of marriage.
The wise ones say you don’t rush into things. So take heed.
One can be forgiven for saying yes in the heat of the moment but only as long as you don’t do the deed, don’t sign the papers till you are very sure.
To a certain degree, you know if you are compatible straight away, after talking with each other, but you also have to study and understand the compatibility, to smooth the crack and tiny flaws that exist.
Compatibility is not compromise, by and large it is not but it has little elements of it. You need to know what you want and don’t settle for less.
Compromise if necessary but compromise must be two way, not one sided.